I Want a Child

We already know that our babies need and depend on us for their very survival but as they get older and begin to grow away from us by going to nursery/kindergarten/school we begin to relax ourselves during the days and let them become more independent.

However, they are still ours to care for at nights, weekends and holidays (unless they are in boarding school).  And as they begin to make friends, you think that you can let them alone even more, just taking care of things in a more relaxed way.  Obviously you keep tabs on them so you know where they are and who they are with and any issues that arise.

But the time comes when your heart is stretched and you realise exactly how much they depend on you.  They aren’t grown up as in being adults.  They have just grown a little away from you but now they need your help.  And as a parent, you do what you can to sort it.  

It’s easy to forget that this can happen and we think life will just go on as it is and it can be a surprise to you that your child has been needing this help for a while and you haven’t known.  It wasn’t even on your horizon to look for it.  But you know what?  That’s ok.

The fact that your child has come TO you and shared with you is the important thing.  And now that you know you can “set up” further opportunities for your child to come to you without making it seem as though you did and they have a chance again to share how things are going so that you know 

Children never lose the need for their parents.  Just think how you feel when something happens to you.  Who do you want to go to?  Your parents.  Whether these are your actual parents, adopted parents, grandparents, godparents, kinship or foster parents or whoever you feel are your parents.

Being there for your child isn’t always easy.  But it’s definitely the right thing to do.