Thoughts on Christmas

I’ve been thinking about Christmas this year and what we can consider to be good and bad ones.  And why we make a judgement on it.  We have memories of Christmas because it happens every year so we can look both backwards and forwards in our lives at this time.

When we see programmes on the television we see the “perfect” Christmas, or the ideal of what people consider it to be.  Yes, there can be things that are wrong in it, but it always comes out right in the end - well, 99% of the time.  And it’s a concept that we can get our heads around.  The beauty and pleasure of a wonderful day that you spend with your family and friends.

But life isn’t perfect.  And things may not happen the way you wish.  Maybe someone is ill, maybe in hospital, or things go wrong - like the dinner gets burned, or you don’t get the presents you want.  But what are you going to do about it?  How are you going to react?

Personally, on my part, I have returned gifts to stores, cooked something else, hated the day, loved the day, enjoyed time with my family - and reacted in many different ways to it. So why am I talking about this now?

Fact is, I believe you have to be happy with the day and enjoy it in the way that you can.  No, I am not suggesting you get drunk - absolutely NOT!  BUT I am advocating good cheer and comfort and kindness and compassion during the season.

When I married Kevin, he knew that it was important to me that we spend the day together on the day and we had a lovely day just relaxing and enjoying the time,  And we went to a carol service together at least once.

However, when we had Johnathan I realised that he found Christmas very difficult to deal with, so we did what he needed to have the best day as we could provide him and that is what I believe you do - make it a good day for your family.