Stumped
Have you ever had a situation where you simply just don’t know what to do? That there really isn’t any answer for you? I am sure we have all been in that position at some point in our lives. And it’s a horrible place to be. It has always been a very negative mind space for me.
So, I guess there are two questions here. Why do we feel stumped? And why do we feel that there isn’t an answer and go to a negative ,mind space? You see, it’s not JUST the fact that you feel stumped but how you begin to look for an answer.
So where do you begin to find the answer? Well, there are lots of different ways you could do so. For myself, I find talking about it with a friend or colleague kind of brilliant because it allows me to explore the alternative options there are. And I don’t have to worry about whether the alternative we are discussing would be totally useless because we’re just kicking ideas around.
Obviously an alternative way of discovering an answer is to look online. Now for someone like my husband or son (who think in the way computers work) that is the best way for them to do so. With the way their brains work, that’s the best way.
I’m not saying that being stumped is a good thing, but there’s an answer - it’s just HOW you find it can be different. Books are another way and reading things in books for me are really helpful and then I can think through what the book says and working it out.l But there are also instructions with or illustrations (which I find hard aa ato read).
You may be able to think of other alternatives yourself. But you have to be willing to look for the answer and be willing to try what you find. And then accept if it gets done wrong, that’s ok, you can start searching again. You don’t always find a solution the first time that completely does what you want it to, and you have to be aware of and accepting of this.
When you get stumped, take a few breaths or step back a bit and consider where you might be able to find the answer. Maybe you already have the tools in your mind to GET the answer or maybe you have to use some other method. Whatever way you do it is the correct answer for you if it means you can get it done and completed.