Friendship
One of my friends asked me to write about this, so here I am, doing so. Friendship. Now where can we start on a subject like this? All of us have friends, but I guess it’s the ones we KNOW we can rely on and they will help us in times of need..
For example it was Johnathan’s birthday last year and all 3 of us had covid. It wasn’t like some years back when I had the ingredients to make them so it wouldn’t have mattered. I didn’t have ANY. Soooooo….I rang one of our friends and explained the situation to him and he went to the shops and got some chocolate flavoured dairy free gluten free muffins and left them on the bin outside our front door.
There is one friend I have on Facebook that we can go months without chatting and it’s like we spoke the day before. The intervening months just slip away. And it’s great to have a friend like that.
Last week I was getting upset that I didn’t think I had “enough” friends - um, can you tell me WHO quantifies that for us? But really, is it the NUMBER of friendships you have, or the QUALITY of relationships you have
The fact is, if you have a lot of friendships it’s really hard to keep up with them all and their different wants and/or needs. It’s far too much to keep in your head AND to maintain that level of friendship with them all.. It’s better to have fewer friendships and have better relationships with those few, than to have more than your body, mind and heart can comprehend.
Having friends and being there for others, is all a part of the fabric of life and how each one intertwines and connects with us makes a difference to them and them us. It makes me think of weaving and putting threads of a different colour in the weaving itself or adding just a pop of that colour…possibly sewing it on the cloth part of the weaving…I mean, you CAN go with the same colour the whole time, and create interest in other ways, maybe the texture or the stitches…
Friends are important to have and maintain. But to ensure a deeper and more intense relationship, you need to spend time with each other. I personally think age differences in friendships don’t matter - it’s how you relate to each other, not the ages between you.