When things go wrong

When things go wrong, because we never live a perfect life because we all make mistakes and sometimes they impact other people.  Other times people are disabled and it is not their fault.  They didn’t decide to be.  It just happened, whatever the reason is.

But it is important to note that whatever it that has gone wrong, you think about your child/ren who are watching you need you to be calm and help them in their distress.  I’m not saying you DON’T have a time where you see to your personal needs.  That is absolutely important for you to do.  I find myself now taking a deep breath and giving myself that wee moment to “put my mask on” first and then see to the child/ren.

Children watch who we are and what we do.  If they are poorly, they need to know you will look after them and care for them and be their advocate because their need is for YOU as parent/s to help them through this time, whatever it is.  

Johnathan twisted and fell in the bathroom when he was 2 years old and I heard the cry he made and it was different somehow.  So I knew he had broken something.  Kevin put him in a comfortable position on his bed where he could watch something Kevin put on his ipad for Johnathan to see and we had the time to get ourselves together and out the door to the hospital. 

You see, it’s not the fact you can’t cope with situations, you can.  But you need to be sure that the child/ren who love us are watching us at what we do and if they see panic within us, their anxiety rises.  So we need to show them loving calmness.

TREASURE

We can find ways to help our children cope with different situations in life.  But when we confront these, we need to be sure we are not just showing them anxiety or anger or whatever negative emotions we are experiencing ourselves.