Surprises

I don’t know if you like surprises or not but I am really uncertain whether or not I enjoy them.  I think I would say in some circumstances I do and others I don’t.  I think one of the biggest surprises of my life was my move up to Scotland.  This is something I never even dreamed of as a child.  I thought I was always going to live where I was in the UK.

And here I was in Scotland.  I had met someone for 2 hours before I moved here and other than my cat was alone.  Truthfully I didn’t know what to do, so I reached out to find friends and discovered Kevin!  Talk of  another surprise!  I mean, he was amazing!  And I knew that we were soulmates in a very short space of time.

Soulmates?  Truthfully, I wasn’t 100% sure they existed!  I mean, you see it on films all the time and you can read books with them in.  But here was one, right in front of me and I just knew we were going  to be married.  The surprise of the first day we met in person and everyone we met assumed we were married already!  

So one day I had had a bad night and Kevin said he would take me to the Argyle Arcade.   I didn’t even know what it was.  I was surprised to discover it was Glasgow’s equivalent to London’s Hatton Garden!  We looked in the window of most of the shops and I think it was the second to last one we were looking at and there was someone cleaning the windows.  I was just saying to Kevin maybe I should just forget the idea of an amethyst and diamond gold engagement ring.  The lady looked at me and said “I think we have exactly what you are looking for in the storeroom.  If you go into the shop, I’ll fetch it.”  And guess what?  It was PERFECT!

Now I’m not saying every surprise is a good one.  In fact, later that day I got taken to hospital for emergency surgery.  And although I was really sick afterwards, Kevin came and held the sick bowl and stroked my hair , telling me how beautiful I was!  I mean, I knew we loved each other and that we were destined to spend the rest of our lives together, but that doesn’t mean you’re happy all the time.  It just means you are together, you have a family, you live together and share everything (bugs included) and you plan together, everything is now done with your life partner next to you and vice versa.

Not every surprise is great, BUT I can tell you there is always something positive you can get out of the worst experience.  I can’t tell you married life will be wonderful and all your problems will be dissolved.  It doesn’t work that way.  Both Kevin and I are still disabled and we have bad days and better days and exciting days  - just the same as you.  So look for the glimmer of light that will guide you on your way and rejoice in the things you can be and are grateful for.  Whatever surprises you get, there is always something good.