Self-confidence and Influence

Having written one post on influence I thought was going to be it,finished, but it appears not. I think there are some things around the subject of influence that needs to be looked at a bit closer.

One of the problems that can come when you allow someone the opportunity to influence you, is that actually you think what THEY think or want for you MUST be better than what YOU think you want because, well, you just suffer from a lack of self-confidence or self-belief.

Now you don’t HAVE to do or choose what somebody else wants for you..I have known I have trouble choosing for a number of years and that’s ok, BUT I need to make more of an effort to REALLY make the actual decision I wanted from the start. My self-confidence is often found under all the rubbish I have allowed other people to put on top of it. And whoever clamours loudest gets the “cream” of being the one who ACTUALLY chooses for me.

From when Johnathan was very young - most especially when he was trying to DO something in particular, we noticed that he actually wouldn’t DO something unless he was 100^ sure there was no way he would get it wrong! And this wasn’t something I wanted for him. So I have deliberately chosen NOT to choose for him, but allow HIM to make choices and attempt to do things himself.

TREASURE

It ism’t necessary to get someone to “suggest” what should be done in a particular situation. But there ARE ways to make the choice easier, and be content with that and it allowing room for personal self belief to really build up.